We are in the final days of Movember. I have now completed 1300 push-ups over the last 26 days, in that time I have raised just over $300 towards men’s health and the enormous effort being applied to prostate cancer, testicular cancer, mental health, and suicide prevention research around the globe.
I set a goal of $1500 ($1 per pushup) during the month, and I appreciate all the support as it has been incredible, but we are not done. As we push into the thanksgiving holiday here in the states, I will continue delivering on those pushups.
I would like to ask you to please take a moment and give to this cause:
I started supporting the Movember movement four years ago following my divorce. The preceding year or so I was struggling both emotionally and financially, not really sure where my life was going. Friends and family helped me during those months more than I could ever really express. So when I saw the additional focus on mention health and suicide prevention during the month of Movember, I wanted to contribute.
I understood where the sense of worthlessness and irrelevance came from. Where the thoughts that it would just be easier if I was not involved (or around) fermented. My two boys provided a grounding for me, I was able to insist upon myself that I was going to remain their dad – an involved dad – and that helped me from sinking too deep. I had a mission, a need that was bigger than myself. From that I was able to pull back from a downward spiral that catches a lot of men in similar situations. But I did not do it alone, I had friends and family that cared. They gave me opportunities, would call to check on me, and would be there to talk when needed. Not everyone has such a wonderful support group, and not everyone has been able to recover as of yet.
If is through this effort that I am working to raise awareness of the need for support groups and community efforts. Suicide is impacting men at over three and a half times the rate of women. Men are feeling the pressure of todays society and not seeing another another way out while at the same time we have left ourselves absent of deep friendships.
The mission of the StillDaddy site was to raise awareness for divorcing and divorced fathers and mothers. Letting them know they are not alone in their daily struggles. Bringing to light some of the challenges we all face both as parents (especially as single parents), as well the the entire divorce and subsequent healing process. That mission continues, as does my pushups… enjoy a safe and happy thanksgiving.
Please feel free to reach out at any time and share you story. We grow better together.